Services

Talking about how we die changes the way we live.

Tackling the Taboo:
Let’s Invite Death to the Table

Most of us haven’t been taught the skills to address death. Death is heavy, sad, and inevitable. At times, death can be messy, scary, and yet also tender and mysterious. The good news is that it is possible to end life well when your wishes chart the journey.

We can do death better. 

Our culture has emphasized how NOT to die, so when that reality enters the room, we lack a meaningful way to address it. Our healthcare system is primarily focused on preserving life, resulting in death being considered a failure or a battle lost when someone is ready to die. Dying isn’t a medical event; it is a human one.

It’s time to normalize the natural facets of life by embracing the reality of death. Then we can create space for healing, understanding, and profound connection in our living.

Let’s begin the conversation.

Death Over Dinner: Family and friends discuss their wishes about living and dying well over dinner using the Five Wishes Model.

Virtual Death Cafe: An agenda-less group conversation about “death” over coffee or tea.

A Good Death: Host a discussion for your group exploring attitudes on death, dying, and grieving.

Kitchen Table Talks with Carole: Join a FREE monthly virtual forum to talk about life, death, and grief.

Talking about how we die changes how we live.

Mapping Your Wishes

You don’t know when you’ll die, but you can plan for what matters most before you do.

Mapping Your Wishes: Best 3 Months (B3M) is a workshop that helps you prioritize your goals and desires in the face of a life-limiting illness or the reality of your mortality. This program provides practical steps to align and embrace the depths of life and prepare for your eventual death. 

As a Certified Conscious Dying Coach, I assist clients and loved ones in exploring beyond advance directives to design a plan and a vision map for conscious living and dying.

In Creating a Conscious Dying Vision Map, I serve to:

  • Educate and research end-of-life options and wishes with you.
  • Explore ways to have intentional and loving conversations with family, caregivers, and healthcare providers about your beliefs and values surrounding death.
  • Guide you to plan for your care when you are dying.
  • Personally coach you to explore the practical, physical, emotional, spiritual, and life legacy dimensions of care you desire.
  • Serve as a guide as you take the next steps to align your living with the priorities on your map.
  • Support the implementation of your vision for now and the future.

Begin with the end in mind.

 

Mapping Your Wishes

You don’t know when you’ll die, but you can plan for what matters most before you do.

Mapping Your Wishes: Best 3 Months (B3M) is a workshop that helps you prioritize your goals and desires in the face of a life-limiting illness or the reality of your mortality. This program provides practical steps to embrace the depths of life and prepare for your eventual death while staying true to your stated priorities.

As a Certified Conscious Dying Coach, I assist you and your beloveds to explore beyond advance directives to design a plan and a vision map for conscious living and dying.

In Creating a Conscious Dying Vision Map, I serve to:

  • Educate and research end-of-life options and wishes with you.
  • Explore ways to have meaningful conversations with family, caregivers, and healthcare providers about your beliefs and values surrounding death.
  • Guide you to plan for your care when you are dying.
  • Personally coach you to explore the practical, physical, emotional, spiritual, and life legacy dimensions of care you desire.
  • Serve as a guide as you take the next steps to align your living with the priorities on your map.
  • Support the implementation of your vision for now and the future.

Begin with the end in mind.

 

Death Doula Services

It is hard to imagine or believe the death of a loved one, or the anticipation of our deaths, can be anything but devastating. Yet, in confronting our mortality, death reveals many truths that awaken our soul-filled selves. My involvement can begin at any stage of the end-of-life process and continue through and after death.

A Death Doula, Companion, or End-of-Life Guide attends to the dying wherever you are. You have options as to where you die that can replace highly medicalized care in intensive care units, emergency departments, and institutions.

The current healthcare system cannot ensure a death with dignity without your involvement. But here’s the thing: you define what that looks like.

As your Doula and Dying Companion, I provide holistic non-medical support for you and your loved ones and collaborate with your hospice or facility team.  I help you curate the space for you and your loved ones to safely explore the practical, physical, emotional, and spiritual ripples that death awakens for you on this journey. Approaching death consciously opens the door to restoring the sacred passage of death with grace, honesty, and love. 

Here are ways I can be of service:

  • Guide your creation of a conscious dying vision map.
  • Serve as a bridge to your care team about your desires.
  • Assist with thoughtful planning based on needs and wishes.
  • Non-medical bedside support and vigil.
  • Provide Respite.
  • Provide presence and space for you and others for the expected and unexpected.
  • Advocacy and guidance for the implementation of your Vision Map.
  • Mutual exploration and creation of rituals and plans for after-death care.
  • Grief support throughout the journey and after death.

Please note: Death doulas are non-medical and holistic practitioners and do not facilitate death. Our primary function is to support and be with individuals in their final transition and release from the physical body.

Grief Guide and Companion

Grieving is not a skill we were taught, yet we are all touched by the pain of grief. We learned how to NOT talk about our pain and emotional responses to loss, allowing it instead to become buried deep in our core. Grief is soul work and must have a voice.

Grieving commands our awareness as its ripples and waves unexpectedly shape and transform us. Everyone approaches grieving differently, as it is a deeply personal journey.

Here are ways I support the grieving:

  • Witness, listen, hold space, and walk alongside you as you traverse this new landscape.
  • Support you in feeling the pain of your grief as you find your path to living with loss and begin to heal. 
  • Accompany you in discovering the fluidity of grief.
  • Assist you in discovering the best tools for your unique journey.
  • I offer one-on-one support and group settings with family, friends, or others. 

You need not wait for a life-limiting illness to explore your beliefs and fears surrounding death and grief. Be the navigator of your journey.

When we discover what matters most, it changes how we live.

Grief Guide and Companion

Grieving is not a skill we were taught, even though we are all touched by grief. We learned how to NOT talk about our pain and emotional responses to loss, allowing it instead to become buried deep in our core. Grief is soul work and must have a voice.

Grieving commands our awareness as its ripples and waves unexpectedly shape and transform us. Everyone approaches grieving differently, as it is a deeply personal journey.

Here are ways I support the grieving:

  • Witness, listen, hold space, and walk alongside you as you traverse this new landscape.
  • Support you in engaging in your grief as you find your path to living with loss.
  • Guide you as you seek the best tools for your journey.
  • Accompany you in discovering the fluidity of grief.
  • Assist you in finding ways to honor your loved one as you live. 
  • Offer one-on-one support and group settings with family, friends, or others. 

You need not wait for a life-limiting illness to explore your beliefs and fears surrounding death and grief. Be the navigator of your journey.

When we discover what matters most, it changes how we live.

“Preparing for death is one of the most profoundly healing acts of a lifetime.”

Stephen Levine

Additional Services

Advocacy

Host groups, college students, or local clubs to discuss death, dying and grief .

Grief in Life

Design a session for individuals, groups, families, schools, and churches.

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